Friend’s of Dr. Bob Men’s Study Group Leader’s Guide 


LEADER: Welcome to the Friends of Dr. Bob Men’s Study Group.

My name is ___________and I’ll be your leader for today’s meeting.

I’ve asked a friend to open the meeting with the Serenity Prayer

READER #1: Serenity Prayer:  

GROUP: (… God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.)

READER #1: The second half of that prayer reads:

Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time.

Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.

Taking as Jesus did – this sinful world as it is – not as we would have it; trusting that you will make all things right, if we surrender to your will.

So we will be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with you forever in the next. Amen.

LEADER: Our meeting is open to any and all men in recovery.

We welcome Christians and spiritual seekers of all stripes to our group.

Friend’s of Dr. Bob is NOT affiliated with any 12-Step Fellowship.

We act in the spirit of Bill Wilson, one of the Co-Founders when he wrote the following recommendation that I’ve asked a friend to read now:         

READER #2: “So it is now pretty well established that groups of A.A.’s can do anything under the sun they wish, with these simple provisions: That they do not attach the name Alcoholics Anonymous to any of these groups, and that they do not use the A.A. name to secure publicity or to raise money. If these conditions are carefully observed, there is no splintering effect whatever. There is no reason why a group of A.A.’s shouldn’t get together for Bible study; no reason at all why a group of A.A.’s in a church should not associate themselves in a sort of spiritual kindergarten fellowship, into which anyone might be invited. As a matter of fact, I am anxious to see this sort of thing tried.”

LEADER: Friend’s of Dr. Bob encourages the study and practice of the Four Absolutes that Bob continued using and recommending throughout his life. I’ve asked another friend to read these for us now.

Reader #3: These are the FOUR ABSOLUTES later formulated into the 12 Steps:

Absolute Honesty: No lying, no cheating, no stealing.

In a word, in all your affairs, simply and absolutely no falsehood.

Absolute Purity: Purity of mind, purity of body, purity of the emotions, purity of heart, sexual purity.

Absolute Unselfishness: Seeking what is right and true ahead of what I want in every situation.

Absolute Love: Loving God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength – loving your neighbor as yourself.

The Absolutes are not claims of attainment, but goals toward which we strive for living a new life free from addiction.

When practiced, they become powerful transformers of our conduct, our character, and our consciousness.

LEADER: This meeting is book-study-group and we’re now reading _______________ .  

  • Makes sure each man has a book – tells how the meeting will be conducted.
  • Group members take turns reading a few paragraphs – then open for sharing.

LEADER: (When the hour is nearly expired, the LEADER says:)

Our time is almost up. Are there any announcements?

  • If you didn’t have a chance to share or if you have any questions, some of us will remain after the meeting to answer them.
  • Thank you all for sharing and for the opportunity to lead today’s meeting.
  • If you found it helpful, please come back next week and bring a friend.
  • Now please stand and we’ll close our meeting with the Lord’s Prayer.